Who is responsible for your life success and failures? You. If you want to be successful, you must first accept personal responsibility of your life. You must accept your achievements, failures, relationships, health, income, your debt – everything.
When you want to practice the concept of personal responsibility, you need to stop blaming others for your problems or results. You should stop complaining and justifying on things surrounding your life. At the age of 18 (at least in most countries), you are an adult, so stop blaming parents, employers, friends, the economy etc. about your life outcomes. Please acknowledge that your life is your responsibility and create the life you want. This is a fundamental value in many religions as each and every person will be accountable for his/her individual actions to God.
No matter how hard you try to blame others for the events of your life, No one can live your life for you. If you want to be respected, be respectable. If you want people to be interested in your life, get interested in their lives. You have to start with yourself first.
“Parents can only give good advice or put them on the right paths, but the final forming of a person’s character lies in their own hands.” ― Anne Frank
When I was a little boy my Mum used tell me what to do, when to play, when I should go to bed etc. Today I am accountable for my actions.
Dr. Robert Resnick, a psychotherapist put a basic life formula ( Jack Canfield’s Success Principle book).
Event + Response = Outcome
This implies that for every outcome we experienced in life is as a result of how we responded to earlier event or events in our life. If you relate it to the future, it means for anyone to live a better future, you have to prepare for it today. Our actions/responses to today’s circumstances influences our tomorrow outcomes.
Ross Parmenter Anthropologist once said “My belief is that personal freedom cannot grow beyond personal responsibility. The more people that learn to be fully accountable for their lives, the more freedom each of us can enjoy and the more fulfilling all of our lives will be.”
Now the question we should ask ourselves is : Am I in control?
Your comments are welcome.